By Maria Christina Owl
Boundaries promote self-respect, protection, clarity, and sovereignty.
Boundaries can also promote teritorialism, jealousy, hurt feelings, and alienation.
It depends on how you set boundaries - with what motivation. And it depends on how the person you are setting boundaries with receives your request or command.
Unhealthy boundaries usually means no boundaries. Merging energies with others. Taking their emotional state into your own body. Not knowing how to say no to what you don't want, or yes to what you do want...
Having healthy boundaries usually means a self-respecting, clear understanding of what you will engage with and what you won't. You can care, and not take on another's struggles.
Most boundaries are ones we need to create within ourselves. Once we know where we stand on things, then we can act in accordance with this inner-truth and remain in self-respect. Once we cross our own line and break our own boundary, we can spiral into shame, or a sense of failing ourselves. We might also get lost in blaming our suffering on another.
I regard boundaries as healthy and also ultimately an illusion.
I know that we need the boundary of our skin to hold all our organs and muscles, etc, inside. Yet I also know that energy is exchanging constantly between every living being and every other living being, in the form of electrons, water, breath, energy...
We live in a divine paradox here on Earth! We are ONE with everything and we need to hold healthy boundaries to stay in integrity. Just as a cell is part of the whole body, yet must have a cell wall and it's own functions in order to contribute to the health of the whole.
How are your boundaries?
Do you have a clear yes and a clear no with people?
Are you rigid with your boundaries? Or flexible?
Can you see beyond the boundaries to the truth of Oneness?
Maria Owl Gutierrez